Some people think this is a such a joyous occasion when your distant relatives who barely remember your name come along and have a chance to carry a random relatives newborn baby.
The full month celebration really had to be the epitome of drama for the new born.
Traditionally most Asian cultures celebrate the baby’s first month of life with a party. I presume this is yet another ancient tradition as there were insufferable mortality rates within the first month back then. These days not so much, but who cares. T R A D I T I O N right.
We had a few considerations:
- For political reasons, my grandfather’s estately house was offered as a venue so we HAD to use it.
- We knew that this was the first male of the next generation so inevitably a 5 generation photo was to be taken and all the drama that goes along with it.
- There would be about 80-100 people who attended including friends without babies, friends with babies, relatives, father’s friends, and surprise plus ones.
- We didn’t want everyone to touch him as his skin was sensitive and we don’t really know where their hands and their mouths have been.
- We had to get the baby photoshoot done concurrently with the rest of the event shoot.
- And we had to squeeze everything in between his 4pm and 10pm feed. (this way he would only have to be disturbed for 1 feed at 7pm)
This was the plan:
- Catered for 60 from Ronnie Kitchen. (not everybody will eat, and not everyone will show up). Ronnie’s Kitchen did not disappoint and even gave us a few extra dishes for the large order. Overall people were very impressed and my brother said the food tasted like $20-30 catering when it was really just $12 pp. Ahhhh…. perceived value. 🙂
- Invite everyone about 2 weeks before hand through whatsapp and chat messages with the exception of the elders who needed to be called one by one.
- Plan how you will defend your baby from all these pucking lips. We kept him in the Ergo 360 carrier for about 90% of the time. It’s really hard to kiss a baby in the ergo carrier. When people want to see him, just twist slightly to the side and lean forward and let them have a look.
- Try to minimize the number of hands that stroke the baby’s hair. Hygiene reasons. Be prepared to bathe him once you get home.
- Stagger the guests arrival times so you don’t swarm the baby.
- Feed him a little early at 3:30pm instead of 4pm, burp him, then change diapers. He should be in the perfect mood for the photographer who shows up at 4pm and sets up till about 4:15pm.
- Snap all the baby shots of him awake, playing, happy, sleeping, etc. You’ll have about 30-45 minutes to do so. During this time, minimize the distractions and people in the room so the baby can focus for the camera.
- At about 5, you should have a good number of guests outside and you should be almost ready to head out. But not just yet, get a runner to grab you some food from the buffet line first. You won’t have time to eat since you’ll be running around entertaining 5 generations of guests. (doesn’t this sound like the wedding dinner all over again?)
- Once fed, go out and entertain. Start by showing the baby off to those
guests with the most moneyguests who are elders. Once they’ve seen and groped his hair, quickly bring him to a private room and wipe his head to minimize the risk of disease. The worst is almost over.
Effective Defense #7103
- Bring him to friends, and stay near friends who have kids. Other parents act as a natural repellent for awkward situations. They also know better than to randomly place their grubby paws and lips on someone else’s baby during the man yue.
We couldn’t fully fight off all the searching hands so we had to let this specimen get away with a carry. But after all, it’s his house and he’s the great grandfather. Okay, we’ll let it slide.